My son Chad was four years old when my sister and her husband had the opportunity to offer a seven-year old boy who needed a forever family a permanent home in their family through adoption. When they announced his pending arrival, my son disappeared. I found him crouched in a corner obviously very upset. I realized almost immediately that while the rest of us were celebrating this news, he was thinking about the impact this event would have on his special relationship with his favourite auntie. This auntie provided care for him on the days when both my husband and I were working. She loved him almost as much as we did.
When I queried Chad about what was upsetting him so, he replied that he did not think that Auntie Tina had enough love for both him and Sean. I quickly thought of Mr. Dress Up’s song “Love is something if you give it away . . . you’ll end up having more.” Mr. Dress Up was Chad’s favourite TV show and fortunately we had a tape with this song on it that we’d played so many times that we both knew all the words to the song.
Love is something if you give it away
Give it away, give it away
You’ll end up having more . . .
It’s just like a magic penny
Hold it tight and you won’t have any
Lend it, spend it and you’ll have so many
They just keep rolling
All over the floor
Love is something if you give it away . . .
We kept playing and singing this song over and over again, in my effort to teach him that love is limitless and infinite – not an easy concept for a four-year old to understand.
The next day when he saw his auntie, he asked her to open her mouth and he was looking way down her throat. When she finally asked him what this was about, he told her that he was just trying to look down to her heart to see if there was enough love for both Sean and him. She had the opportunity to assure him that indeed she had enough love for both of them. Chad and Sean became great playmates and Chad experienced that sharing his auntie’s love was better than keeping it all to himself.
©Irma Nadeau February 13, 2008
Published in the Heartspace Anthology, Time for a Story?
Tartan Graphics, 2008
About the Author
Writing is one of the ways Irma explores her life experiences. As she writes, she is sometimes surprised by the new awareness and meaning she gains. Irma finds joy in creating meaningful moments and memories with family, friends, especially her grandchildren and sharing with her writing group.